I assume that most of you know me well enough to know part of, if not all of my story since 2006. If you don’t ask me sometime, but here is a brief overview is that I was married in November 2006 and she left on Thanksgiving 2007. My life was torn apart and it had to be rebuilt from scratch. The divorce was final sometime in 2008 and by that time I had started going back to church and began healing. If it wasn’t for God and my parents instilling in me that he was there, I would not be here.
There was a lot of healing that went on in 2008-09 in regards to knowing that I needed the Lord in my life and nothing else could take his place. However, I was still carrying so much baggage from the marriage that I did not know how to get rid of. Finally in May 2010, I stumbled across Dust ( the community) I have had the pleasure of being a part of for 3 years. The love and support that I have received from this community along with a deliverance process that I took part in helped me get free of the baggage that I was still carrying and helped me forgive my ex wife, myself, etc.
Before I went through this exercise of forgiving people and myself, I could not even think about my ex-wife without being angry or sad. I certainly was not able to pray for her and just didn’t care in I ever saw or spoke to her again. However, something changed when I forgave her. God changed my heart and I cared about her again. I began to pray for her some as time went by and really just asked for a few things. 1. That she would be blessed and 2. That she would draw close to God. I didn’t pray all the time but you know from time to time when I thought of my life with her and everything we had gone through. I still don’t think I desired any so called reconcilation or hope that maybe one day we would be able to say sorry to each other and go on with our lives. If I did , I probably would have wrote her.
So this actual story begins approximately two months ago. One Saturday, a few Dusties decide they want to hang out at the park and so I go not expecting anything out of the ordinary. As I’m playing frisbee, I see my dog Hank that we had together and I had given back to her in 2008. He was on a lease with my ex wife’s step father and having a blast just walking around the park. I by no means wanted to speak with this guy though because of things that had happened with him as well and so I did not approach them.
A few weeks went by and for some reason, it kept crossing my mind that man Hank looked so happy and healthy and I wish I could just thank her for taking care of him. I then thought well I was good friends with her current fiance about 4 years ago, I’ll just Facebook message him about it. Yes, I know its weird that she dates an old friend of mine and that they just had a kid together but I decided to do it anyway. My message below:
Hey man I know this is weird but #1 congrats on your new son with Liz and #2 i saw my old dog hank at the park with Tony today but didnt approach for obvious reasons so I wanted to tell her thanks for taking care of him all these years but saw she didn’t have a Facebook anymore #3 wish you all the best
I was just going to leave it at that. I didn’t expect anything back other than maybe ” yeah i’ll do that.”
About two weeks later, I’m sitting downstairs and I get a Facebook message from her. I was a little weirded out and gathered myself before I clicked on it. Her message below:
***** told me you saw my mom with hank he is doing well. Thanks for the congrats that was nice. I hope this is not weird but it is something I have felt God has asked me to for a long time and I didn’t know how to go about it so I have put it off. God has been doing a lot in my life and has been working on my heart. I just wanted to say I’m sorry for the hurtful role I had in our marriage. I cannot go back and change those things but I can ask for forgiveness. So there it is and i should have said it a long time ago. I hope God brings blessings to your life just as He has mine.
I was overwhelmed with emotions, I cried a little bit but not much. I think I was relieved and maybe just happy surprised. I think God picked the right moment in time. It’s one thing for her to realize that she had a hurtful role in the marriage and that she was sorry but the fact that she expresses the two things that I prayed for for her these past few years was beyond comprehension.
1. I hope God brings blessings to your life just as He has mine.
2. God has been doing a lot in my life and has been working on my heart.
These two things sound a lot like the two things I prayed for , don’t you think? There is hope for things that you don’t think there can be hope for. There is hope for things that you pray for. There is hope! Look, I know that me and her are never going to be friends again but the fact that God has blessed her and we have both forgiven each other , is a beautiful thing!
I just can’t say enough about how God orchestrates and restores things. He is good! I will praise him all of my days!